Well, I tried to do a series on Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) using words taken straight from Dr. Gardner's literature...but I got distracted...and bored. I'm not keen with staying on a topic for too long--and the several days that I did it was enough.
I actually read several, or better yet, many articles by Dr. Gardner--old and new (new when he died in 2003...others have since taken over, yes, I've read some of theirs, too, everyone has a PAS or PA or something nowadays). And you should read them too before you jump on the PAS bandwagon.
It is so easy to jump on, but it is so simple-minded. Again, I ask, do you know what PAS is? What it consists of? Before you go accusing or attacking, do some research...just like you should do when you get ready to vote...but unfortunately, I see more and more of the evidence of people's shallowness. Saying that one has PAS without knowledge of what it consists of is like voting for Palin because she is nice.
Besides, what is the accuser's responsibility in the syndrome? What did the other parent DO to make the child (and mother) act as such? Don't show up 5 years later after having abandoned your child, talking about you got alienated. No shit!
Take responsibility. Treat the mother of your child with some damn respect and see if it may open the lines of communication, that is, if you didn't spend years beating her and/or the child's ass. If you did, then fuck off.
What do moms get out of "alienating" their children from the fathers? WHY oh WHY do they do this? More child support? A house? Cars? Hell no! Ask a mom what she would trade her child for...and she would say, Nothing in this world. Now, go a look at a Father's Rights website and see what they really want--less money going out of their pockets (lower, or zero child support) and their "rights" to the child.
Right to a child? Reminiscent of slavery to me. Reminiscent of ownership of women to me...now extended to children. Chattel.
This is about protection people. When all else fails, the mother still protects...
Equal parenting is bullshit. If you want equal parenting, it should have begun in the married household. If you want equal parenting, the mother shouldn't have to do all the facilitating and accommodating when the plans fall through on your end.
Anyway, here are a few analyses on PAS that are well worth the time and effort these people put into it.
If you think you've seen it, go here.
If you want to know why it's used on mothers, try here.
If you want to see PAS versus the APA, look here.
If you want a syndrome that is more directly correlated to fathers (this also provided me with a great laugh), go here.
There are plenty more...but I'm spent.
Monday
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2 advocates for peace:
You have provided me with a great deal more than you will ever know by this post. I have been extremely discouraged in my own battle to protect myself and my child from thye abusive father/ex husband. To know that there are others out there who see this as bunk means quite a bit.
Oh, you're welcome. When I saw that I had a comment, I got a little nervous because I never know what to expect with PAS.
Do the best that you can with no regrets. There are oh-so many moms that are fighting so hard right now because of this. I could have never imagined.
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