I beg of you, for the sake of everyone involved, if no one has been physically injured in the relationship, PLEASE stay out of the family court system.
I'm not asking you to resolve the relationship because the days have passed in which you can just "stay together for the kids." I'm asking you to cut your losses and walk away peacefully so that you may begin again. I'm asking you to communicate with each other--yes, I know you probably couldn't do this in your relationship, evidenced by you parting ways--however, you can move forward. You can have the life you envision if you keep the government out of your personal affairs.
The MOMENT you invite the family court into your life, you will have strangled the possibility of ever living a "normal" life. You will sever any prospect of having a glimmer of hope that communication with your ex will be respectable or satisfying.
In inviting your family into the court process, you are allowing some stranger who doesn't know a goddamn thing about the best interests, who gets PAID during your suffering, to make decisions FOR you and also AGAINST you. It is a show...and expensive show. Everyone loses.
In your greed and lust, you may think you are winning, but I promise you, the suffering that you will cause will be of such a great magnitude, that it will clandestinely rob you of happiness and you'll long for the end of days.
Life doesn't have to be short. It doesn't have to be unfulfilling. You have no claim to someone else's life. You have no right to anyone else's life. You can only control your actions. Please work it out so that everyone can walk away and LIVE.
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3 advocates for peace:
Good point. Anyone who has been assaulted, threatened or abused should not have to go to the family court at all. The only problem with that is that the "professionals" would lose their money and they will continue to "make sure" that their "investments" are not tampered with. I don't have an accurate source, but I do believe that the family court has funded angry mens movements to keep their income going as most of these movements have violence supportive attitudes. I find it so hard to imagine what a normal conflict court case would be like and wondered whether these actually existed as they treat so many cases that involve violence and child abuse cases as "high conflict". The Family Court is certainly an abusers paradise.
I could not agree more. In my situation, the Guardian Ad Litem sided with my ex simply because she was taken by his charm. I think that because fathers usually get the short end of the stick, she felt it was similar to an "affirmation action" kind of thing. She predetermined that my case would be different and favor the father without examining the facts. She did not consider what was good for my daughter and ended up sending her OUT OF THE COUNTRY and back to him. Moreover, on a previous trip to Cozumel, I had gone to visit the Mayan ruins of Ix-Chel, goddess of hearth and home, where Mayan women traditionaly sought refuge for this sort of thing. I went there to meditate and ponder my plight. When I told this to the Guardian Ad Litem bitch, she accused me of "idol worship." This was partly the basis of her decision!
Anonymous--I'm going to have to use part of your comment as a blog post, it was something I hadn't originally considered.
Wait! And you, too, Nancy! I think I'm going to start using my comments as fuel instead of the news.
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