MYTH:
Men want to participate more in raising their children after separation or divorce.
REALITY:
Most men who fight for custody or access do not want a larger role in the day-to-day caregiving, but rather a larger role in decision-making related to their children and ex-spouses' lives.
A Canadian study of fathers' rights groups found that members of these groups expected mothers to assume primary responsibility for children, whereas fathers spoke of "helping." Not one father in the study talked about wanting to have the responsibility of the everyday care of his children. [Source: Carl Bertoia and Janice Drakich, "The Fathers' Rights Movement: Contradictions in Rhetoric and Practice," Journal of Family Issues, 14, 1993.]
The primary caregiver should also be the person who has the primary decision-making authority.
Tuesday
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
2 advocates for peace:
They are kind of discussing this at sucks website. Porky has said that a woman who is a stay at home mom shoudl only get paid what a nanny, housekeeper, and cook should get and then she needs to cut that figure in half because it is half of her house and the kids are hers as well. This is all well and good if dad does half of the care process, but like you have shown here - he DOESN'T!!!!
My ex didn't and 99.999999999999% of all abusive men never help with household type duties - such as cleaning, meal prep, doctor appts, school stuff, and MORE!!!! Men are such jerks sometimes. I am mad right now I want to post on my blog but I have to be up in less than 5 hours for a dumb waste of time meeting grrrrrr. Hey at least it is free breakfast and lunch lol. Gotta luv free!!!!! Especially since my loser ex cannot seem to get off his duff and pay his support!!!
Abusive men? In my lifetime, full of good, bad, and best men as role models, the only one's I've seen share completely in the household duties, are the ones who were single fathers/bachelors. Bam humbug
Post a Comment