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Stalking Statistics

According to the Stalking Resource Center:

* 1,006,970 women and 370,990 men are stalked annually in the United States.

* 1 in 12 women and 1 in 45 men will be stalked in their lifetime.

* 77% of female and 64% of male victims know their stalker.

* 87% of stalkers are men.

* 59% of female victims and 30% of male victims are stalked by an intimate partner.

* 81% of women stalked by a current or former intimate partner are also physically assaulted by that partner.

* 31% of women stalked by a current or former intimate partner are also sexually assaulted by that partner.

* The average duration of stalking is 1.8 years.

* If stalking involves intimate partners, the average duration of stalking increases to 2.2 years.

* 61% of stalkers made unwanted phone calls; 33% sent or left unwanted letters or items; 29% vandalized property; and 9% killed or threatened to kill a family pet.

* 28% of female victims and 10% of male victims obtained a protective order. 69% of female victims and 81% of male victims had the protection order violated.

Stalking Resource Ctr., The Nat'l Ctr. for Victims of Crime, Stalking Fact Sheet, http://www.ncvc.org/src/Main.aspx (citing Patricia Tjaden & Nancy Thoennes, U.S. Dep't of Justice, NCJ 169592, Stalking in America: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey (1998)
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The men's groups are constantly complaining about the availability of restraining orders and false allegations. The statistics prove how necessary restraining orders are. And they should last a minimum of 2 years, period, again, looking at the stats.
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Stalking often leads to violence

Theodore R. Duerst is accused of calling a Janesville woman 15 times, then threatening to go to her house and “put her head on the curb and smash it.”

“Ted had called me and said that he was going to come here and kill me,” the woman later told police. “I asked my sister to stay with me.

“Before she got here, he said that he was going to be here in three minutes, so I woke my kids up and got them in the car and left.” ...
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Are you a digital stalker? Take this quiz.

By Chip Mahaney
The E.W. Scripps Company

Even though states' laws differ on what constitutes illegal stalking activity, here are a short list of questions you can ask yourself to identify if your behavior is in danger of crossing the line between friendship and digital stalking:

1. Do you "check in" online on this person several times a day?

2. Have you created online aliases so you can disguise your own identity?

3. Have you e-mailed, texted or IM'd this person's family members, work colleagues or friends in order to gain information about them?

4. Are you an obsessive texter with this person - several times a day, or even several times an hour? Do you get anxious when he/she doesn't reply right away to every text?

5. Has this person ever told you to leave them alone, and yet you still continue to monitor what they do online?

6. Have you been contacted by a third party (a mutual friend or perhaps even the police) and asked to back off from making contact with this person?

7. Have you accessed this person's online accounts (Facebook or MySpace, for instance), without their knowledge?

8. Have you passed around compromising photos of this person, in an attempt to embarrass them?

These questions aren't the only forms of cyberstalking, cyberbullying or digital dating abuse. But if you answer "yes" to any of these questions, you may be showing signs of inappropriate, unwelcome or perhaps illegal behavior.

Click the related links on this page for more information and resources for help.
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