Saturday

Depression in Mothers, not Fatherlessness, Do You Get It Yet?

Frankly, I'm tired of blogging domestic violence. I'm tired of blogging homicide news. The picture is so bleak because it is multifaceted. The d.v. "industry" is about getting grant money for salaries and trainings and doing the [important] front end work of sheltering abused women who seeking shelter...but they stop short of telling women what happens afterward when she is forced to continue some sort of relationship with her abuser for the sake of the best interest of the children according to a corrupt family court system and a government that is concerned with the advancement of fathers men.

Our society is structured so that everything is women's fault, or at least we are lead to believe it is as such. Women are not capable of anything great in the absence of a man. [Black] women cannot be successful and career minded without fear that she will be single and without a [Black] man. Women can not be successful mothers and raise great children in the absence of a man...now, not just any man...he must be the biological father. Any woman who is a lesbian must be choosing to exist as such because of bad relationships with men. A woman/girl experiencing relationship malfunctioning or juvenile delinquency must not have had a father present in her life. Is this the only way we can view the world?

Fatherlessness is such a crock of shit and I pity people who actually believe in it hardcore. Has anyone ever stopped to think that these horrible single mothers out here are fucked up because the fathers of their children left their lives in shambles? Has anyone ever considered that these children are ignorant and delinquent because of their father's bloodline/genes?

Here is the beginning of an article that I thought was notable:

How Depression Harms Low-Income Moms And Babies

Over half of babies born in poverty have depressed moms, and these moms rarely get treatment — revealing yet again that one of the groups most in need of mental health services is least likely to receive them.

According to Donna St. George of the Washington Post, researchers at the DC-based Urban Institute found that more than 50% of babies in poverty have a mom with some level of depression, and one in nine are born to severely depressed moms (rates are lower, though still high, in the general population, with 41% of moms reporting some depression, and 7% suffering severely). Low-income moms are also unlikely to get treatment — only 30% of those with severe depression had talked to a therapist in the year the study was done. Unsurprisingly, this has an impact on babies — for instance, depressed moms are less likely to breastfeed. Says study co-author Olivia Golden,>>Read the rest here
The general premise of this article is on point. Where I am in disagreement is with most stuff involving the "mental health" industry because, yes, it is yet another industry and as such, it will prey on low income persons, people of color, and children. For example, it seems like every [male] Black child in the State of Florida has some mental health condition for which he/she receives special education and maybe a state check. Diagnose, label, stigmatize. Does the problem change? No. Are there real solutions? No. You know what? Poor people who don't want to be poor but cannot see any end in sight are likely to be depressed. If these poor persons are mothers, this depression is going to affect the children. This is not rocket science. These children will not be raised the the best abilities of what White middle class society thinks they should be. They may or may not be raised with love...it depends on how many mental resources the mother has. And no, a ticket to receive mental health counseling isn't going to cure the poverty. It may get her some drugs and some talk therapy but what resources will this mother acquire to help her be able to care for her children in the way that she needs to? In the way that she wants to?

The only part of this that may have to do with fathers (other than the genes) is the absence of monetary support. This is about money. Fathers are not essential, especially if they do not come with money (or child caretaking skills).

I really can't think of anything more depressing than being poor and trying to raise your kid the best that you can...and then having the Administration of Children and Families, Child Support Enforcement segment come in and regulate your child support case and tell the father that ran out on you and your child[ren], or beat you, or cheated on you, hasn't done shit for you but get in the way, come in and take you through the court system to share custody of your children for the sake of his fatherhood, while you try to deal with all this new shit AND the old shit.